AM I CURBING HER INDIVIDUALITY?
So my little Lightning loves to dress up. In the morning when she gets ready she asks, “What should I be today?”, “A superhero”, “the president”, and so on. One day she decided half of her was professional and the other half was casual. She taped two different jackets together to have a causal and professional side, she borrowed one of my husband’s ties and taped it to her professional side, and finally she parted her hair in the middle and put half in a bun and left the other side down. I love her individuality and her love of being different, but when or do you ever put your foot down? Well I recently faced this dilemma. The issue I recently faced was Lightning attending a ball with her dad. She does not like wearing dresses and really wanted to wear a tuxedo like her dad. My fashionista friend and co-blogger was a true friend and advised don’t let her do it, a ball is a ball is a ball…she needs to wear a dress. I did it and put my foot down. We scoured the internet for tuxedo dresses and found the one…only to discover the lady is no longer in business who makes it. Back to my fashionista friend and a seamstress was found and a black dress purchased on-line for the base of the dress.
While doing all of this I still had my doubts. Am I curbing her personality? Am I not letting her express herself? Am I making her conform?
Well today is the ball, the dress is done and the top hat is on. She is her, she is exactly who she is but in a wonderful dress that she loves. We found a balance between conformity and individuality. I think this is a lesson I will need to repeat over and over again and guide my individualistic child toward. I always want her to be herself, but there may be times in the future where we need to figure out a way to be true to ourself within certain socially acceptable standards.